Dan Savage (founder of the “It Gets Better” project) is a perfect example of the whole “LGBT pride so long as you’re only a white cisman and nothing else” community.
Here are a few of the things he’s done:
- He has called trans* people “trannies” and “shemales”, as well as told a parent they were selfish for not waiting until their child has graduated from high school to have their sex-change operation. [x]
- He has attacked a rape survivor over her relationship with her husband [x]
- Savage falsely labeled Washington State Attorney Rob Mckenna as transgender as a joke(?) [x]
- He has stated that “avoiding bi guys is a good rule of thumb for gay men looking for long-term relationships.” [x]
You can find more of his sexist, racist, transphobic, biphobic comments here.
because people keep asking me why Dan Savage is awful and I really cant articulate sentences in general.
when you’re deep in a conversation in something in your head and on tumblr and in your studies and with some people in your life and then POOF you are in a world where nobody understands a thing you are talking about
THAT is Camp Adventure sometimes.
Terms that have intentions that are ineffably misunderstood in this context:
Certain communities are disconnected from others, especially scholarly ones in my experience.
Theory is not real life. Real life is not a theory.
I just want to hand them a stack of books and then have a conversation all the time. Sometimes it sucks when what you care about is what you study. I am a living party foul.
My name is Trevor. That is one of the few labels I have always been comfortable with. In the last year or two I have learned to accept my multiplicity of identities. Reading helps me understand these things. Understanding the way gender and race have been constructed to the detriment of so many people made me realize I can resist these categories in understanding myself. I have found a sense of liberation in the ability to accept my feelings of self-identity in between and outside of binaries like male/female and gay/straight. I now take pride in my genderqueer, cis-appearing, pansexual self. I don’t wanna paint it too rosy though, life sucks sometimes when you can’t be comfortable with the normalized conceptions of identity. But if you can find some people who accept you for whoever you are at that moment then you can learn to be comfortable with yourself. Hold on to those people, even if they don’t exist in your real life. If you don’t have those people please reach out. Find a new band to listen to and a new club to attend on campus. Don’t just tolerate this society that pinholes us all into categories. I remember one time I saw on xanga in like 8th grade a group that said ‘labels are for cans, my dear.’ That has really stayed with me. Also finding some arts help. Paint, rap, erotic photography… etc. you can do it all. Don’t listen when they say “love yourself” or “it gets better” without any explanation. Sometimes shit doesn’t get better.. World’s fucked up, racist, hellyphobic, selfish, selfiche, crook, full of kook-joke struggles. Progress does not move in a linear fashion, its helly cyclical… Sometimes you gotta try your best to make it better, and then you get knocked down, then you gotta try to pick yourself up again, you can do it, but it is sometimes hard as fuq. Anyway, I didn’t mean to make this all preachy. I am me. I am Trev. I am working on it. I talk a lot and try to listen. I got a cute puppy that helps me get through the day. The world is a pretty cool place if you can learn to ignore all the shit. Jokes, books, and jokebooks all help too. Anyway, in conclusion, I’ma stop trying so hard to love myself and start trying harder to love the world. Shit will probably fall into place.
In this “historical” minute the nation seems to be very into the “marriage equality” debate. The BIG court finna hear some shit so we’re all supposed to listen. Here is what I feel about it in a rant:
I’m mostly all for gay marriage, but i think it is a small step in a much larger battle, and it is a step that is taking way too long, and in taking long, it has reduced a set of many complex conversations to a single, comfortable issue that still privileges certain people (monogamous, cisgender white people especially). Where are the financial and emotional privileges that come with marriage for poly people? for long-term roommates? for the golden girls? when will trans* folks be able to do what they want with their legal gender statuses? when will trans* people be protected when trying to safely use public restrooms? when will people be protected from getting fired for their gender performance/identity/other queer IDs? when will action be taken more broadly to protect trans* people from hate crime? from discrimination in healthcare? let’s talk transphobia, transmisogyny, biphobia, etc. and on and on and on